You can pretty much google any question you have about being pregnant, however, I was surprised at some of the things you just don’t know about being pregnant until you are. Things you would think your mom would have told you but did not. Things that somehow get missed in the great quantity of new information you suddenly want to know everything about. Let’s face it—has there ever been a time in your life you were more motivated to learn? Here are four things your mom wanted to tell you, but she knew that you wouldn’t understand until you were there.
EVERYTHING CHANGES. EVERYTHING.
- You will worry and fret and become completely consumed by thoughts about this child and being pregnant, pretty much from the minute that second line appears. Some things make sense, some do not. You will become hyper-aware of your health and start to do all the stuff you meant to be doing all along. However, you can also cry when you wake up in the middle of the night NOT on your side, consumed with thoughts about how you probably deprived your baby of oxygen. (You didn’t–I looked it up online.)
YOU WILL BECOME UNREASONABLY PROTECTIVE SOMETIMES.
- Being fiercely protective is kind of an understatement. Like, momma-bear fierce. Like, (possibly) a tiny bit unreasonably protective. I have actually confronted strangers about smoking by the entrance to a building. I wish I could say I was polite, but I pretty much shrieked at them that they were damaging my baby. I’m not proud of that moment. It wasn’t the first time I lost my sense of social norms during pregnancy, but it was pretty spot-on for how consumed you feel about keeping your little one safe.
YOUR BODY NEVER REALLY GOES BACK TO PRE-PREGNANCY STATUS.
- There is no amount of careful eating or exercise that will entirely remove the evidence that a human grew inside you. Those stretch marks and that squishy mid-section are evidence that our entire universe has changed. Yes, I’d like to get the squishy part a bit smaller, but it also reminds me that my body did a pretty incredible thing and it is allowed to look like it performed a mighty feat.
NEITHER WILL YOUR HEART AND MIND.
- Those commercials that seem so cheesy and CLEARLY meant to create some ‘emotional’ response….well, they do. I had to stop watching the news or clicking on news links for a while because you become protective of every child. Even fictional children. On our first post-partum date with our third child, I actually had to leave the theater because I was sobbing so loudly. Not pretty sobbing, the ugly kind. Because a fictional child and mom were in peril. People—fictional. (Spoiler: they made it. I looked up the ending online.)
Becoming a mother is the singularly most transformative experience we go through. It’s okay if there is a learning curve. Of course we don’t know how to mother—we’ve never been a mother before! Or a mother to two kids. Or a mother to three. You’ll figure out the important stuff, I promise. Trust your instincts. And call your mom–she’ll know what you mean.